Posts by Coach Ken

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Abuse is NOT a Cry for Help

There’s something I want to tackle here that keeps coming up in my coaching calls. There’s a certain type of relationship that can be especially confusing to navigate. They aren’t always necessarily approaching abusive, though sometimes they can get there. I’m talking, though, about relationships that just make you feel like you’re being treated less. Relationships where they treat you a lot worse than they …

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Love & ADHD: The Aspects and Obstacles

There are so many aspects and obstacles that come with being ADHD, for both you, and the people around you. Though ADHD implies a disorder in the name (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Dysphoria), I don’t agree with this. While again, ADHD certainly has its drawbacks, I wouldn’t call it a disorder, that word has a lot of connotations I really don’t agree with. Truth is, it’s …

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Is Your Husband an Emotional Bully?

I noticed this 1st incredibly effective manipulation dynamic in multiple people who, many times, turned out to be narcissistic. A husband being an emotional bully.

To this day, I don’t even know if it’s intentional. Maybe any mind consumed with itself becomes programmed to think like that.

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Do They Love Me?

“Do the love me” is one of the those unanswerable – impossible to know for certain – not “black and white” situation – type of questions. It’s the kind of question everyone has a confident answer to give to someone else but can never find any certainty with in their own lives. Actually there are several very popular versions of this single question. Do they …

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Narcissists and ADHD: Why Do I Attract Narcissists?

WHY PEOPLE WITH ADHD and ADD ATTRACTED TO NARCISSISTS If the emotional world was an ocean – then Narcissists would NOT be the Great White Sharks. They would be Megalodons. And Empaths would be Seals. Not “seals” as in US NAVY S.E.A.L.S. badass, tough guy, air/land/sea warrior version either. No, this would be the “Awww” look at how cute!”, scared for them to get into …

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How to Destroy a Narcissist

*This article is in response to a question posed on Quora. Q: What should I do if I want to destroy a narcissist? A: If you want to destroy a narcissist, and leave a serious emotional wound in return for the countless times they’ve ripped you open, just to make them know you’re willing to fight back – or get a morsel of your own …

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The Agony of Empathy

“Fools” and “Love” – Two things that go hand-in-hand since the beginning of time. The ecstasy of feeling the powerful pull of romance with its heart-pounding rush of adrenaline, euphoric sense of being capable of the impossible and addictive flood of dopamine and seratonin. It’s like peanut butter and jelly. Wait – even better, it’s like strawberries and chocolate. Or a fireplace and makeout session. …

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3 Signs They Aren’t In Love With You

How to know if someone loves you True love is one of those all-important topics with a lot of questions and very few reliable answers. What is Love? Whatever it is, does it last forever? How do you know if you feel it? How do you know if someone else feels it for you? These are all things everyone wonders during the course of their …

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